When Persistence Becomes a Problem
That delicate balance between continuing with something—a project, a business, a relationship, anything really—because it still brings you joy or…
staying with it because you think it will ‘eventually’ take you somewhere else (and you desperately want to be somewhere else).
I tend to stick with things well beyond what’s reasonable, in the name of ‘persistence’ or misguided loyalty, or perception of security.
Underneath that is a feeling that stopping would mean something negative about me.
A lack of integrity. Not staying with things long enough for them to bloom.
Because that’s my tendency, others often give me precisely the message I’m broadcasting: persist, even when it doesn’t feel good.
My experience has shown me that’s not a good idea.
What is a good idea is talking myself back into it, back into the joy of it.
Because if I can’t find that joy again, then it’s not for me.
I must realign myself with where I’m going or I will get off course.✨
Thank you for reading. 🫶
Good reflections Susan❣️ I think its crucial to not push yourself into something you absolutley dont want. If you get that feeling straight away , that is a clear message coming from your heart. Its not only clear but strong, because its intuitive. I have learned always stick with your intuitive feeling, follow your heart❤️
Hi Sue - I remember when I was at my lowest with my old job and told a UK counsellor I met through my blog that I needed to just keep pushing through. She turned that on its head and asked why I thought that, because pushing through when you're miserable and it's just getting worse, isn't the answer....finding a new and better way is the key. That was an eye-opener for me, and I think that's "realignment" :) x