I love this, quite thought provoking but in a very good way. I was pondering what would happen when someone would vent and you would ask do you really want me to agree with you so we could vent together or maybe we try make this into positive or skip to doing something else than venting? Just pondering how poeple could feel about it.
Thanks so much for your thoughtful comment. I love that this got you reflecting. That’s such an interesting idea—to pause and ask if someone wants to keep venting, look for something more positive, or maybe even shift gears completely.
I think it really depends on the moment. For me, the key is just meeting people where they are. Sometimes they’re open to shifting, and sometimes they just need to be heard—and either way is totally okay.
Hi Sue - when I was in a very toxic work situation I talked about it to a few close people constantly - I think it needed to come out for me to process it, but it took over my life, my conversations, and my thoughts. Sometimes we need to step back and decide that the situation needs to be dealt with and moved on from, rather than churning it over endlessly. Recovery takes time, but it takes even more time if you stay in the situation and just complain about it...
Hi Leanne, Yes, that’s exactly it! You’ve summed it up perfectly. It does take time, yet the ‘churning it over endlessly’ is not helpful. Work situations can be particularly difficult because we spend so much time there. I imagine your awareness of what was happening helped so much in getting through that difficult time. Thanks so much for sharing your insights.
I love this, quite thought provoking but in a very good way. I was pondering what would happen when someone would vent and you would ask do you really want me to agree with you so we could vent together or maybe we try make this into positive or skip to doing something else than venting? Just pondering how poeple could feel about it.
Hi Izzy,
Thanks so much for your thoughtful comment. I love that this got you reflecting. That’s such an interesting idea—to pause and ask if someone wants to keep venting, look for something more positive, or maybe even shift gears completely.
I think it really depends on the moment. For me, the key is just meeting people where they are. Sometimes they’re open to shifting, and sometimes they just need to be heard—and either way is totally okay.
Really appreciate you sharing your thoughts.💛
Hi Sue - when I was in a very toxic work situation I talked about it to a few close people constantly - I think it needed to come out for me to process it, but it took over my life, my conversations, and my thoughts. Sometimes we need to step back and decide that the situation needs to be dealt with and moved on from, rather than churning it over endlessly. Recovery takes time, but it takes even more time if you stay in the situation and just complain about it...
Hi Leanne, Yes, that’s exactly it! You’ve summed it up perfectly. It does take time, yet the ‘churning it over endlessly’ is not helpful. Work situations can be particularly difficult because we spend so much time there. I imagine your awareness of what was happening helped so much in getting through that difficult time. Thanks so much for sharing your insights.